I think its the mental manipulation, and the idea of Deb "owning" Carlos that bothers me, and bothers me about the moe dominant macrophile fetishes, its not about equality and informed consent, it comes off as abusive and cruel. I prefer macrophilia where everyone is respected, and no one is coerced or manipulated.

IMO, the fact that women or any giant being in macrophilia has power over something or someone smaller than them, puts more responsibility on them to use their power justly, or even knowing when NOT to use their power at all, instead of them being less resonsible. They prove themselves inferior to the small being by abusing their authority honestly.